“Are you my little sister’s little brother?”
In any other family, this may sound like an odd
question to ask someone, but in our family – a blended
family – with multiple extensions it represents
something precious. A connection between two
households.
Recently, at the graduation of my 2nd daughter from
marriage, a lovely young woman approached our son Andrew
and posed the above question while in a gesture familiar
to a Mom held his hand touching the top portion with her
fingers and smiling at Andrew.
Are you my little
sister’s little brother?
These words bring to mind a connection in a blended
family that crosses lines of extension when children of
ex-spouses meet children of the current marriage, and
know that in some way there is a bond between them also.
In Blended Families, this “half” brother and “half”
sister connection leaves the majority of families
confused and children, especially young children, just
do not understand who is part of their family and who is
not.
Personally, I don’t like the term “half” to describe
siblings. You are either siblings or you are not.
Love and Grace either are given to others regardless
from who and what circumstance others have come, or they
are not.
In the spiritual sense, we are one family, born unto a
higher purpose. We can either choose to look at our
fellow brother and sisters in Christ and consider them
“half” or “whole” siblings. We are either siblings or
we are not.
As each member of a blended and extended family bring
something unique to our family, each member of the body
of Christ, bring something unique and special to God
their father.
When my husband’s stepdaughter took the hand of our son
and posed the question “Are you my little sister’s
little brother” I saw an act of grace.
Grace is God and children of God reaching out to others
and asking “Are you my little sister?” or “Are you my
little brother?”
Then answering "For sure you are!" and in love and
grace, touching hands and hearts with hope and healing.
Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what
is good. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love.
Honor one another above yourselves.
Romans
12:9 & 10 KJV
